Hairdresser: Why do you color your hair so dark?
Hairdresser: I just wondered.
Me: My husband has always wanted to see it black, so I did it for him.
Hairdresser laughing: Do you always do what your husband says?
Me: Pretty much.
Hairdresser arms frozen in midair staring in shock when she realizes I'm serious: Why?
Me: The question for me, is why not? Pleasing the other makes us both happy. Its a win-win. After 21 years and two children, he still looks at me like I'm the only woman in the world. Who wouldn't want that? This ^^
bigpapakink-deactivated20131202: im new at this. ive recently taken up the role of being a daddy and i wanted to know what kind of punishments you have lined up for your little girl if she misbehaves.? just curious.
no, what I stated was that he wasn’t attacking, but educating. Your problem is you are the age he mentioned that shouldn’t be involved in this type of a relationship, so you attacked him back and made an unfounded statement regarding him being a tumblr Dom. My point is emotional development varies, and the now ledge of the human brain continues to develop. BUT that he is 100% correct in stating that the prefrontal cortex is not developed until the mid twenties and thus, he was right in worrying whether this young man would know what to do in case something went wrong. As your blog states, you are 19, but you want to espouse knowing all about neuroscience. I’m sure your study of neuroscience (what I’m assuming probably took place in high school and your first few years of college) is equal to my doctoral degree in psychology and my two year postdoctoral education in neuropsychology. The belief that you would know as much about neuropsychology as someone who studied it for 4 years of college, 5 years of postgraduate work, 2 years of a postdoctoral fellowship and then 7 years of actual clinical practice after all of that is exactly why I said you’re brain has a bit more maturing to do. I am able to admit That even with all of that education, I still don’t know everything. But I also have enough science behind me to definitively know that we do in fact know when the prefrontal cortex develops. And 19 isn’t it. You’re allowing your own defensive emotions dictate your responses. I never said you couldn’t be in this type of relationship, I wasn’t that much older than you when I started. I merely stated scientific fact about the brain (which is widely known and understood) and that thedaddyshow was right in warning someone that young to not worry as much about discipline yet, and work on maturing himself. This is the last you will receive on me about the subject. I just needed to clarify your erroneous beliefs around neuroscience so others didn’t spout the idea that we have no idea when the brain develops. For more information please refer to here Or hereAs someone who has studied neuroscience, while your arguments do have some basis in scientific fact, what little is known about brain development in young adults does not directly correlate with their real-world behavior (though studies have been and continue to be performed). Hence, one cannot base maturity or “readiness” of another individual to engage in an activity based on whether or not his/her brain is fully developed. x. Nevermind the fact that many brain functionalities and processes remain largely unknown and the ever-advancing world of technology and science in general will make what we believe to be true look like nonsense in a few hundred years. *gulp* My point being that individuals of the age of consent are fully capable in engaging in healthy, sexual relationships that involve kink (whether it be caregiver/little or any other bdsm-related kink). It is merely relative to their emotional maturity for which there is no accurate measure. As long as they are consenting, it is up for them to decide what they are ready for. Furthermore, I cannot support someone who discourages young adults from engaging in sexual exploration as it is oppressive and self-righteous in my opinion. But, hey, you know me, right? This must just be my lack of impulse-control speaking.Actually, thedaddyshow is not a “tumblr Dom”. He’s a real life Dom with his live in babygirl, and he’s right. It’s not something for kids to play with, and he’s right that ones brain is not developed until the mid twenties (the prefrontal cortex, responsible for ones executive functioning), so understanding antecedents and consequences is typically weaker in those under 25. And he’s right to warn new Dom’s about babygirl dark space, aftercare and waiting to learn more before you start practicing and hurt someone. Seems to me he wasn’t attacking, he was educating.
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A Real Daddy...Ever heard the term that "Any man with a dick can have kids but it takes a man to be a father" I think that's true in the ddlg world but with a different spin. Yes, a Daddy should be good with the sexual side of this type of relationship, but there is so much more a real Daddy needs to be! He is the protector, the developer, the guardian, and much more. Being a Daddy is more then being able to arouse a girl sexually or making her want to submit to you. It's about making her THE priority in your life. Building her up so that when troubles come she does not waver. She draws strength from your affection, your poise, your strength, your heart. If you can't do this, or accept this, then you are not a Daddy. And you should not accept one of these lovely "little" creatures into your protection. You will only hurt them. So much this. This is exactly how I feel.